To Bits & Pieces - 7.3.22

 


To start this one off, we’re going to have to take it all the way back to 2015. I had just started talking to this girl from back home. She was beautiful and we had incredible conversation. I remember her birthday was approaching and I wanted to get her something but I wanted to keep it modest because we weren’t officially dating yet. I ordered her some flowers to be delivered. I had no idea that her favorite flower was a Gerber Daisy. Luck of the draw I guess. 

The next 2 1/2 years would be full of trips to Washington for her and trips back home to New Hampshire for me. Our weekends consisted of trying to fit in a Sunday night FaceTime date while we went through the trials of a long-distance relationship. I knew this girl was the one. On one of her trips to Washington state we thought we would make a fun game of it and go look at engagement rings. In reality I was using this to get her ring size but she had no idea. We both talked about the future and what it would hold. We would get a dog and name her Kona . We fantasized about the snacks we would have at our future wedding. We had life in the palm of our hands. You know the rest. 

I wasn’t sure how long it would take for me to be ready to be loved again or to really love myself again after my injury. Those first few months were a whirlwind of emotions and processing grief. But I was never alone. I always had Kass at my side. Feeling like a burden was something that I knew I needed to overcome and I am so thankful that I have been able to do just that. With Kass at my side as my partner and caregiver my body has been respected and loved more than I ever imagined was possible. We started living the term “in sickness and health” way before we even imagined being married. I wasn’t sure things could feel any different being married as opposed to dating for seven years but I was very wrong. I have the official honor of being married to Kassidy Jean. Something I never deserved and never will deserve. But I will live my life knowing that this woman is my wife. 

I knew exactly what I was getting into when I started planning how I was going to pop the question. I made a Pinterest account to sneak into hers to get some inspiration for her ring. I took some screenshots and went to the jeweler with my brother in law get the perfect ring made. The first thing I noticed when I went into her file on Pinterest was that this entire wedding was already planned out years ago. I mean, it makes my job easier… all I had to do was quit dragging my feet. 

On July 3, 2022 I married the love of my life. In front of God, family and friends Kass and I experienced the Sacrament of Marriage. I never imagined that happiness like this could exist.

One thing that I’ve learned from this life as a quadriplegic is that life doesn’t really give you a lot of promises. Things can change in an instant but the one thing that has never ever changed is the love I receive from my wife. I am a blessed man in many aspects of life but where I am most blessed is with Kass. God gave me a woman that he knew would move mountains to make love work. A woman that wouldn’t budge when things got hard. A kind, thoughtful and selfless partner. That is my wife folks. 

Kassidy with a K. You are my rock. You always have been. I’ve always said no matter where I was that “home is where the Kass is”. I should cut this short before this starts turning into my vows but I need the world to know how lucky and blessed I am moving into this next chapter of life with my beautiful bride. I love you to pieces, honey.

Wedding Video: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CgmCBzIlikd/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

God Bless!


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